Stuck behind our masks and armor, we tend to live in patterns of re-creation, reliving nightmares stored in our bodies created by the traumas in our lives. Here are limiting factors to our freedom that effect and color every choice that we make.

Every choice that we make impacts our life and it is important to learn to not choose from habit, especially when those habits come from negative patterning. Indeed negative patterning is a habitual behavior that results in lack of choices and entrapment into those behaviors that lead to distress and further lack of choices in our lives. We often find that we are literally ‘painted into a corner’ by our habits.

Abraham Maslow’s theory of Self-actualisation refers to the desire that everybody has, ‘to become everything that they are capable of becoming’.

According to Maslow’s Theory, once our basic needs are met, we are then free to ‘actualize’ to the extent that we are able, however:

It is said that ‘all roads lead to Rome’, and those roads are the paths most travelled, the choices to ‘grow’ are often paths that are rocky and seem dangerous, as we often don’t recognize the terrain and worry that we have lost our way, when actually we are forging a path that leads to growth and positive learning.

We often see as dangerous, those ‘new’ ways that take us into the unfamiliar. What is unfamiliar is merely new and can bring us into novel and beneficial ways of coping with problems and situations that are impacting our lives. It is here that a transformational coach, therapist or a ‘spiritual friend’ becomes of paramount importance.

Growth can come by recognizing those patterns and habits in our lives that are non productive or that negatively impact our situations. By recognizing this we can begin to bring about change. It is important to not default to punishment, but to realize growth through positive reinforcement.

Here we forge a path together that leads to self actualization, which we find through the pathways of self worth, safety, self-esteem and trust

Working together we will co-create a formula for change that will impact your life by seeking out your inner strengths and gifts, and forge a concrete foundation to build upon.

We will seek and find your habits that lead you to re-create defeatist patterns and choices that negatively impact your life. We will explore those skills necessary to create a plan to raise your confidence, and find those choices that lead to security and positive growth in work and relationship choices.